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 Yes Again by Sallie WeissingerYes, Again:(Mis)adventures of a Wishful Thinker by Sallie H. Weissinger

Publisher:  She Writes Press, (October 26, 2021)
Category: Memoir, Grief, Loss, Romance, Dating
Tour dates: October-November, 2021
ISBN: 978-1647423155
Available in Print and ebook, 224 pages
Yes, Again

Description Yes, Again by Sallie H. Weissinger


In this laughter-through-tears memoir, Sallie H. Weissinger, a late-in-life widow, recounts the highs and lows of navigating the tricky online dating world of the 2000s. Interwoven throughout her adventures in search of a new relationship are stories from her childhood as a military brat, her southern heritage, her various marriages, and the volunteer work in Central and South America that helped her keep moving forward through it all.

Weissinger keeps her sense of humor as she meets men who lie, men who try to extort money, and men with unsavory pasts. When she experiences even more loss, her search for a partner becomes less important, but—with the help of friends and dogs—she perseveres and, ultimately, develops her own approach to meeting “HIM.” Blending the deeply serious and the lighthearted, Yes Again shows us that good things happen when we open up our minds and hearts.

My Thoughts Yes, Again by Sallie H. Weissinger


Sallie H. Weissinger divorced her first husband and then found the love of her life, Matt through the personal adds.  However, 24 years later, Matt dies of cancer and she is devastated.  She actually suffers several losses over just a 4-year span.  As she picks up the pieces of her life and learns to cope with loss, after some time, she wants to find another life partner.

She is in her 70’s and there are no longer personal ads in newspapers. In ‘Yes’ Again’, she shares her experience navigating dating websites.  She does this honestly and with a lot of humor.  Fed up with online dating sights she decides to try something new, she creates herself, she named PASTRAMI. It is an acronym for the traits she wants in a partner, for example;  physically fit, adventurous, spiritual, traveler, etc… She then enlists the help of her friends to find men that fit the mold and even offers a $5000 reward to the charities of match makers choice if she stays with the man for one year. She even enlisted assistance to set up a PASTRAMI website.

After going out with men that sounded promising but didn’t work out, she was about to give up but then a friend told her about a guy, Bart that lost his wife about a year before.  It was practically love at first sight for both Sallie and Bart.

In this heartfelt memoir, we learn the details about all of Sallie’s losses and heartaches and how she overcame the obstacles they formed.  I think many people who suffer the kind of loss she did, give up on life and just go through the motions. Instead, Sallie throughs herself into life with traveling, volunteering, and eventually dating. Especially for a woman in her seventies, she is an inspiration.  We can all learn a lot from her.

The thought of loosing my husband, now of 25 years, is my worst nightmare.  If it were to happen, I will certainly need to read this book again to get reinspired.  ‘Yes, Again’ gets all 5 stars from me!

I received the eBook from Net Galley for my honest review.

About Sallie H. Weissinger


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Sallie H. Weissinger is a native of New Orleans and was raised as a military brat away from the South (Germany, New Mexico, Ohio, Japan, and Michigan). Every summer, she and her family returned to visit her mother’s relatives in New Orleans and her father’s family in a small Alabama town. She has lived most of her life in the Bay Area and also in New Orleans. These days, “home” includes not only New Orleans and Berkeley, but also Portland, Oregon, where she lives most of the time with her husband, Bart McMullan, a retired internal medicine doctor and health care executive, and their three dogs.

A retired executive herself, she now teaches Spanish and does medical interpreting for non-profit organizations in Central America and the Dominican Republic. Weissinger is a passionate member of the Berkeley Rotary Club and has served on the boards of Berkeley Rotary, the Aurora Theatre in Berkeley, and the East Bay (formerly Oakland) SPCA.

Website: https://www.yesagainmemoir.com/

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 Yes Again by Sallie WeissingerYes, Again:(Mis)adventures of a Wishful Thinker by Sallie H. Weissinger

Publisher:  She Writes Press, (October 26, 2021)
Category: Memoir, Grief, Loss, Romance, Dating
Tour dates: October-November, 2021
ISBN: 978-1647423155
Available in Print and ebook, 224 pages
Yes, Again

Description Yes, Again by Sallie H. Weissinger


In this laughter-through-tears memoir, Sallie H. Weissinger, a late-in-life widow, recounts the highs and lows of navigating the tricky online dating world of the 2000s. Interwoven throughout her adventures in search of a new relationship are stories from her childhood as a military brat, her southern heritage, her various marriages, and the volunteer work in Central and South America that helped her keep moving forward through it all.

Weissinger keeps her sense of humor as she meets men who lie, men who try to extort money, and men with unsavory pasts. When she experiences even more loss, her search for a partner becomes less important, but—with the help of friends and dogs—she perseveres and, ultimately, develops her own approach to meeting “HIM.” Blending the deeply serious and the lighthearted, Yes Again shows us that good things happen when we open up our minds and hearts.

Advance Praise Yes, Again by Sallie H. Weissinger


“A funny, touching, and ultimately uplifting story of a woman searching for love and purpose.”—Kirkus Reviews

“Weissinger celebrates her 75th birthday in Yes, Again by taking the reader on a tour of her big heart and where that heart has taken her. This glorious story of a life lived in love is the perfect read because it’s hilarious, honest and full of hope. We are all lovers, or we wish we were and Sallie shows us how: never give up, occasionally give in and don’t stop believing. Brava!”-Adriana Trigiani, Bestselling author of
Tony’s Wife 

“If you like to read memoirs, you won’t be disappointed in Sallie H. Weissinger’s Yes, Again. I really loved it….it was a pleasure to read a book written by a woman who didn’t let age get in the way of seeking love and living life fully.  While she may not have realized it when writing, Sallie provided a life lesson for those of us of a certain age: There’s no reason not to take charge of our lives and make things happen. Whether it’s looking for love, reaching personal and professional goals, or living on purpose every day, women can disrupt aging and rise to life’s challenges.”—Camille Goscickivitalaging4women.com

“After reading Sallie’s soulful book, I have to say this gifted writer got the love she wanted the old-fashioned way . . . she earned it!”-Lacy J. Dalton, singer and songwriter

“Linearity works for many things; however, in Sallie H. Weissinger’s potent book (and even more potent life) she shows us how tapping into grace can be a tangible way of entering into mystery, meaning, and direction. By recounting times of staggering loss, loneliness, self-doubt, perseverance, and openness to the ineffable, Sallie demonstrates how the journey of life can be a glorious pathway for those with a bit of daring!”-Bill Say, MA, life coach, Process Work Diplomate, and instructor at CIIS, JFK University, and the Wright Institute

Interview With Sallie H. Weissinger

Hi Sallie, thanks so much for agreeing to this interview! 

TR: Please tell us something about ‘Yes, Again’ that is not in the book.

SHW:  Writing a memoir is a draconian exercise in deciding what to present to the reader and what to dump.  A lot didn’t make it into the book, and each time I cut something, I threw a bit of myself away.  One tough decision was not to write about growing up in Munich in post World War II-Germany, amid the bombed-out buildings and street rubble. Four decades after we returned to the states, I called my mother one weekend to recount a dream I’d had about playing with a little girl with one arm that resembled a sausage.  I asked if that had happened or if I had made it up.  “That was Erika,” Mom said.  “The lower part of her arm was blown off by a bomb.”  Our conversation brought back more memories, including one of a little boy who’d lost both eyes. By the time I was five, I’d learned to identify with innocent people who’d endured hardships I couldn’t fathom and resolved to do what I could to help them.  In my book, though, I skimmed over these childhood memories and most of my first marriage to focus on my 1978 meeting with husband-to-be Matt and events after that. 

Another difference, as I answer my rephrased version of your original question, is this:  If I had written Yes, Again earlier, there would be less of my family’s and my dirty laundry in several early chapters.   It wouldn’t have been as honest or as genuine.  And there would have been no internal voices called “Sweet Pea” and “Steve.”  

TR: Where did you get the inspiration for your book cover?

SHW:  When we were pre-teens, my friends and I used to blow on dandelions after they turned from yellow to white.  I’d close my eyes and make a wish, blowing hard on the white feathery seeds and scattering as many as possible.  The legend was that, if you blew all the seeds off, like blowing out all the candles on your birthday cake, your wish would come true.  But I never thought I had to blow all the seeds away. I thought if just one seed floated off in the right direction, my wish would come true.  That’s why I wanted the cover to show the one light-infused seed floating into the air, flying off the page and up into the blue sky. 

My She Writes Press project manager and the designer asked me for ideas about what I wanted my cover to convey.  First, I suggested an open window looking out on a field.  Next, we tried versions of a dark house with one lit window that signified hope.  No versions of those two concepts got us “there.” That was when I remembered wishing on dandelions.  My patient designer went to work on a new round of graphics, incorporating the vision of ascending, hope-filled dandelion seeds.  It was fun and rewarding, but not easy.  I thanked her for hanging in there with me.  I’d like to thank her again. 

TR: How long did it take you to write this book from concept to fruition?

SHW: It seems like it took forever.  I’d say it was a total of four years, but in the beginning, I didn’t necessarily intend to write for publication.  I was keeping a journal that turned into a personal memoir that turned into a book.  It helped to have two close friends who were impressive editors – they encouraged me to publish it because they believed my writing contained helpful life lessons about working through dark days.  Then, many amusing episodes occurred that warranted sharing with readers.  That mixture of the painful with the humorous – and the ultimate outcome – were not possible without the passage of time. 

TR: Seasoned writers usually have a routine.  Can you tell us about yours and how it developed?

SHW:  I’ve always been interested in knowing what routines established writers follow.  Everyone I’ve read about writes in the morning.  Ernest Hemingway, Haruki Murakami, Kurt Vonnegut, Maya Angelou, Stephen King, Barbara Kingsolver, Susan Sontag, and Alice Munro all wrote or write in the morning. Serious writers don’t answer the phone or pick up emails till they’ve completed their writing; they screen out distractions, leaving errands, appointments, chores, phone calls, visits with friends, book reading, and exercising for the afternoon. They set and meet their goals to ensure they write every day for a certain number of hours.  Often, they have a quota for a specific number of pages or words.  They sit down at the same time each morning and follow a fixed regimen (for example, taking a 15-minute break every two hours).  Stephen King writes six pages a day; Maya Angelou rented a hotel room without a phone, so she couldn’t be interrupted.

I tried to establish that type of routine but never could.  Too many other things seemed to demand my attention.  The phone rang, or a neighbor knocked on the door.  I couldn’t ignore the pile of emails in my inbox or the voicemails and texts on my phone. I had morning meetings I couldn’t blow off.  My girlfriend could only go to the gym at nine a.m.  Interruptions were frequent, and it was hard to get on track. Even worse were the days I couldn’t write at all because I was antsy, distracted, or despondent.  On the other hand, I had days I wrote from mid-morning till midnight or even later, forgetting to eat dinner because I was on a roll and going with the flow.  I stopped only to walk the dogs and then went back to the keyboard.  I don’t suggest doing it the way I did. 

TR: What is your favorite scene in the book? Why?

SHW: If I answer this question, I will give away a part of the book 1don’t want to reveal to people who might buy it.  I’ll say I especially like Chapters 15 and 16 and the Epilogue.  I love the scene in Chapter 15 about the Portland airport and the one in Chapter 16 about the chickens.  These scenes and the entire chapters were fun to write. They wrote themselves.    

TR: You wrote about online dating and some of the dates you went on that made me laugh so hard it brought tears to my eyes.  Can you share one of those stories with my readers?

SHW: You may be thinking of a first encounter at a coffee shop in Berkeley – I’d gotten there early and was sitting down, sipping a cappuccino when my prospect showed up.  His profile indicated the likelihood of meeting an interesting, intelligent man, and our phone call had been promising.  We arranged to meet on University Avenue, near campus.  When he entered the coffee shop, I saw he had a donut-shaped cushion in his hand.  We recognized one another from our photos, and he approached my table.  Mr. Online Prospect placed the inflated ring on the chair next to me before going to the counter to order coffee.  When he returned, he kicked off the conversation by telling me he’d had a hemorrhoid operation the week before.  He positioned himself carefully on the cushion to minimize the pain, wincing occasionally.  I watched him move around uncomfortably during the entire time we sat together, managing to make polite small talk and hold back any signs of amusement.  I felt bad that he was experiencing discomfort but wondered why we hadn’t postponed our coffee date. Did he think sharing details of his hemorrhoidectomy with a potential partner was the way to pave the road to romance? There were other laugh-worthy anecdotes, but this one takes the cake.

TR: Where does your passion for Spanish come from?

SHW: When my father was stationed with the Air Force in Tokyo, and I was attending a military dependents’ school, my seventh-grade social studies teacher taught us from a textbook with chapters about children our age who lived all around the world- Russia, China, Africa, France, Australia, Iceland, and many more countries.  Our textbook presented the children and their families in a cultural and geographical context.  We learned what their parents did for a living, what their homes (in some cases, tents and yurts) looked like, how they studied, what they did for fun, and what they ate.  I loved that entire semester. There was a little girl who lived in Mexico City, the former pre-Columbian capital, Tenochtitlan; a Quechua boy in Cuzco who described visiting Machu Picchu; and an Argentinian boy whose gaucho father took the family for a one-day outing to Buenos Aires.  Each child in our books had a name and a distinct personality, but for some reason Mexico City with the floating gardens of Xochimilco, Peru with its Inca ruins, and the cosmopolitan city of Buenos Aires seemed to me the most exotic, enticing places in the world – even more than Japan, where our family took weekend excursions to see intricately carved, painted temples and shrines.  When I started high school, I chose to study Spanish because of my vivid seventh-grade memories.  In college, I majored in Spanish (and minored in French), went to the University of Madrid and lived in a Spanish dorm for a year, and went on to graduate school in Comparative Literature in Berkeley, studying Spanish, French, and English.  I taught Spanish in my twenties and have visited Spain many times since then.  For more than two decades when I worked in human resources and public affairs at the Federal Reserve Bank of San Francisco, I had minimal opportunity to use the language, other than reading Spanish authors and going to movies in Spanish.  But I knew I’d get back to it.  When I retired, I started doing medical interpreting in Central and South America and the Dominican Republic and writing and translating medical manuals.  Covid has brought that to a halt, at least temporarily.  But it hasn’t stifled my passion for it. 


About Sallie H. Weissinger


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Sallie H. Weissinger is a native of New Orleans and was raised as a military brat away from the South (Germany, New Mexico, Ohio, Japan, and Michigan). Every summer, she and her family returned to visit her mother’s relatives in New Orleans and her father’s family in a small Alabama town. She has lived most of her life in the Bay Area and also in New Orleans. These days, “home” includes not only New Orleans and Berkeley, but also Portland, Oregon, where she lives most of the time with her husband, Bart McMullan, a retired internal medicine doctor and health care executive, and their three dogs.

A retired executive herself, she now teaches Spanish and does medical interpreting for non-profit organizations in Central America and the Dominican Republic. Weissinger is a passionate member of the Berkeley Rotary Club and has served on the boards of Berkeley Rotary, the Aurora Theatre in Berkeley, and the East Bay (formerly Oakland) SPCA.

Website: https://www.yesagainmemoir.com/

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Odyssey of Ashes by Cheryl KrauterOdyssey of Ashes: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Letting Go by Cheryl Krauter


Publisher:  She Writes Press, (July 20, 2021)
Category: Memoir, Grief, Loss, Healing
Tour dates: August-September, 2021
ISBN: 978-1647421328
Available in Print and ebook, 168 pages
 Odyssey of Ashes

Description Odyssey of Ashes by Cheryl Krauter


Odyssey of Ashes: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Letting Go begins with the sudden death of Cheryl Krauter’s spouse. Five months later, in a stroke of irony and magic, her husband wins a long-desired guided fly-fishing trip in a raffle―and Cheryl decides to go in his place, fulfilling a promise to scatter his ashes by a trout stream.

Part I of this memoir is an account of the first year after Cheryl’s husband’s death, where she becomes an explorer in the infinite stream of grief and loss, a time traveler between the darkness of sorrow and the light of daily life. Part II concludes with stories of the poignant and humorous adventures she had during the ensuing year. Tying it all together and woven throughout is Cheryl’s account of the creation of an altar assembled during the three-day ritual of Los Días de los Muertos.

Poetic and mythological, Odyssey of Ashes is a raw story of loss and the deep transformation that traveling through darkness and returning to light can bring.

Advance Praise Odyssey of Ashes by Cheryl Krauter


“Cheryl Krauter’s latest memoir, Odyssey of Ashes, is both a moving tribute to her late husband John and the celebration of an emergent woman who finds herself “being carried on great winds across the sky” in a cradle of intermittent sorrow and enlightenment.
Written in an enjoyable flowing format with chapters divided between two main sections, Krauter’s book will break your heart while channeling habits of self pity toward doing a greater good.. you’ll find good examples of ways to carry on..  Krauter shares personal, interesting anecdotes.
I highly recommend this book for those who’ve lost a spouse and want to understand how one woman is working through it.”- Shawn LaTorre, Story Circle Book Reviews

“In this engrossing memoir, Krauter shares her journey through the deep waters of grief. Her graceful writing reminds us that the cycle of love and loss is as natural as the river current, and it is only through fully embracing the force of the waters that dry land can eventually be found.”
Allison J. Applebaum, PhD, director of the Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center Caregivers Clinic and editor of Cancer Caregivers

“What a moving book about loss and mourning. Cheryl finds solace in, among other things, trout fishing, rituals, Buddhist wisdom―and, luckily for us, writing about her experiences.”-A.J. Jacobs, editor-at-large of Esquire magazine and author of Thanks a Thousand: A Gratitude Journey

“With profound insight, Cheryl explores the spiritual nature of life and death, the sacred connection between love and loss, life and death. A work of depth and infinite caring, this book is ultimately a gift of love, hope, and survival.”-Cindy Rasicot, author of Finding Venerable Mother: A Daughter’s Spiritual Quest to Thailand

Interview With Cheryl Krauter

Please tell us something about ‘Odyssey of Ashes’ that is not in the summary.  (About the book, character you particularly enjoyed writing etc.)

The character of my oldest childhood friend, Bill, aka Billy, shows up as one of the more interesting characters in the book. And, without question, he is an incredibly interesting character in real life! Bill and his spouse, Shash, were hiking with me at Lake Tahoe when I got the call about John winning the guided fly-fishing trip to Montana. He was the first one to help me organize John’s fly-fishing equipment. He was the first person I went fishing with after John’s death as the two of us went fly-fishing on a guided half-day trip that had originally been booked to include Bill, me, and John. Bill and Shash also gave me the story of Mis which was selected by a Celtic storyteller who chooses a mythological story to match a personal story and then records the story for the person receiving it. This mythology, along with these other stories, weaves throughout the book giving Bill a distinct presence in this memoir.

You weren’t into fly fishing before you met your husband however, you spent a lot of time fly fishing with him and continued after he passed. It seems like it was part of your grieving process.  Can you tell us more about that?

As the center of the story does involve the fly-fishing trip to Montana and my promise to scatter John’s ashes by trout stream or river along with the fact that fly-fishing was an essential part of John’s life, it quite naturally become an integral part of the memoir. It was important to set the stage for this trip by sharing the stories of past fishing adventures and misadventures as well as to write of the metaphoric nature of fishing and watery worlds and how they connect with grief and, particularly letting go. In fly-fishing there is a technique called catch and release which, I believe, speaks to the nature of loss. We engage in our lives, in our relationships a bit like when we hook a fish at the end of our rod. But then it’s time to release that wild fish back into the stream, returning it to its environment. So, it is when we release a loved one after they have left us to continue a journey that we cannot be a part of, to travel to someplace we cannot go and, in the end, cannot know because it is not our path to walk.

This memoir is written from the perspective of a deeply emotional inner experience of trauma, grief, and transformation.  What was it like to write the book from this place and how does it feel to show yourself to the world in this way?

I don’t remember making a conscious choice to write from the shattered inner experience of the death of my husband. The books I have written on cancer offered my subjective experiences as a way to join with my readers but quickly moved to a format more academic in nature. Surviving the Storm: A Workbook for Telling Your Cancer Story was written for people who had been diagnosed with a life- threatening illness, their partners, families, and caregivers so the focus was on self-help in regards to the understanding, support, and healing of these people’s experiences.  Psychosocial Care of Cancer Survivors: A Clinician’s Guide and Workbook for Providing Wholehearted Care was designed to educate health care clinicians professionally and speak to how their personal needs are impacted in the intensity of the work that they do. These books are of an academic nature so the viewpoint while personal was brief and always in service of the particular topics that were being presented to the reader.

By contrast, I open Odyssey of Ashes: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Letting Go with the chaotic, terrifying first moments of helplessly standing by while my husband died. Like an abstract painting where paint is thrown, splashed, and thrown onto a life-size canvas, my words flew onto the page.  While the manuscript went through rewriting and concentrated editing, the essence of the story remains raw and unfiltered.  The voice in every scene inevitably comes from within me and, in that way, I am sharing my innermost self with the world. My editor was the only person who read the work as it was being written so I’m imagining that people who know me may be shocked by the ways in which I speak of my struggles to say afloat as I swam in the turbulent waters of my grief.  As the book moved forward into publication, I began to have moments of panic at what I was releasing into the world for all to see.  But at this point, that ship has sailed and I have made peace with my decision to open my heart for all to see. 

Besides wanting to tell your story did you draw inspiration for your writing from any outside force like other authors, etc.?

The biggest inspiration in my life comes from my own work with death and dying as a psychotherapist. I am no stranger to this territory as I have guided people as they travel to the end of their lives. These people touch and inspire me with their courage every day of my life. 

There are three writers who inspire my work. The poet and essayist, David Whyte whose work is authentic and speaks to delving below the surface and into real places of discovery where one lets go of stale, dull conversations and turns them into alive and engaged dialogues. The other was the Beat poet, Diane di Prima (died in 2020) who was a teacher and mentor for me. A passionate, generous writer, she was the person who taught me to “write raw” and worry less about the audience than my own truth. The writer Neil Gamin inspires me to “color outside of the lines” and to value writing from a place of vulnerability. 

What is your favorite scene in the book? Why?

The scene in Montana where I am finding the place to scatter John’s ashes. It’s hard to pick a favorite as the entire book is deeply personal and each scene is written from a raw place within me and then splattered onto the page. When I read this scene, I have a visceral experience of the stormy day when I scattered his ashes beside the Madison River. The emotions come rushing back and I am once again, kneeling by a raging river, the mountains surrounding me turning from purple to black, wild winds blowing ashes into my face. The whole story is an odyssey but this particular scene conveys that it was an odyssey of love to bring his ashes to the Madison River, experiencing the loss of leaving them behind, and then the beginning of letting go of a life that no longer existed.

Which actress would you like to see playing the yourself from ‘Odyssey of Ashes’? Or why would you prefer your memoir not to become a movie?

Annette Benning would be the perfect choice to play me in a movie. Another one of my oldest and dearest friends shared this memoir with a screenwriter who has expressed interest in the possibility of co-writing a script. In one of our initial contacts, I told her that I had written one very bad play and another very bad short screenplay. She seemed unfazed and offered to help me with the writing of a screenplay. The book is so emotionally evocative for me that I am not sure that I want to continue to work on the writing of it. Do I need to let it go?  Do I need more time and space before embarking on turning it into a movie?  I do see possibilities for it as a film. I’m doing my usual inner reflection on this question and so far, don’t have clarity on what I want to do.

Tell us about your cover. Did you design it yourself?

No, it was designed by She Writes Press with my approval of the final cover.

How long did it take you to write ‘Odyssey of Ashes’ from concept to fruition?

I began making notes for the book when I decided to write it after learning that John had won the raffle prize of the guided fly-fishing trip and it was offered to me in the fall of 2016. I had a concept of a short book written in scenes that would take place from the early morning of his death through the trip to Montana. The trip to Montana occurred in July of 2017, a year after John’s death and this was when the book began to take shape.  My editor believed that I should extend the book beyond the moment of John’s death, the initial phases after his sudden disappearance and the trip to Montana and move forward into the aftermath of my experience of scattering his ashes into the next phase of my life. I finished the first draft in 2019 and then began the arduous process of editing and rewriting to pull together the finished manuscript which was delivered in late 2019.

Do you plan to write another book?  If so, please tell us about it.  If not, how are you keeping busy these days?

I would like to write a novel and I do have an idea that is meandering around in my mind. The story involves a homeless artist in my neighborhood, a kid who feels pressured to be someone he is not, an older woman who is dying of cancer. I’d like to spend some time learning about novel writing and working on crafting a book over a period of time that does not have deadlines. I’ve always admired writers who take years to write a book and I would like to give this space to my next project. I’ve made some notes at this point for this book but right now I am focusing on giving Odyssey of Ashes the love and attention it needs to enter the world. I’m “keeping my eye on the prize”!  While I wouldn’t call it keeping busy, I do have a psychotherapy practice which is extremely full as the issues of the pandemic have created a tsunami of need for those of us working in mental health. 

What book/s are you reading at present?

The Testaments by Margaret Attwood

Me and White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World, and Become a Good Ancestor  by Layla F. Saad

Note: As a vegan blog, we do not agree with some of the views of the author.  Namely fishing, even catch and release. However, this is her story and personal life. We thank Cheryl Krauter for sharing her story of grief and resilience!


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Odyssey of Ashes by Cheryl Krauter

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CHERYL KRAUTER is a San Francisco bay area psychotherapist with more than forty years of experience in the field of depth psychology and human consciousness. A cancer survivor, she is the author of Surviving the Storm: A Workbook for Telling Your Cancer Story (Oxford University Press, 2017) and Psychosocial Care of Cancer Survivors: A Clinician’s Guide and Workbook for Providing Wholehearted Care (Oxford University Press, 2018). She lives with her personal assistant, a cat named Amie.

Website: http://www.cherylkrauter.com/
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Twitter: https://twitter.com/CherylKrauter

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