Book Description:

Publisher: Frederick Fell Trade (September 15, 2009
Category: Non-Fiction, Self-Help (Legal)
Available in: Print, 240 pages

Learning from the mistakes of a failed first marriage and telling yourself you will do better the next time around is like saying if you lose a football game you’ll win the next one.  You will but only if you learn some new plays before you go back on the field.  Presented   by an attorney who has seen all the warning signs, “BEFORE YOU SAY I DO, AGAIN!” will teach those new plays to avoid coming up on the losing side again.

Note, book shelves are filled with warm and fuzzy titles authored by psychologists and family counselors.  Their message is to teach how to listen to each other and improve the relationship.  “BEFORE YOU SAY I DO, AGAIN!”is not a how to book to get back together or to stay together.  Instead it takes the gloves off and provides insight as to the issues one must consider before walking down the aisle a second time.  Tackling a serious subject, but presented in a sometimes whimsical fashion, “BEFORE YOU SAY I DO, AGAIN!” puts the brakes on the wedding ceremony and provides the reader with the questions that must be answered before she drives down the path of destruction.

In addition,   it provides information regarding the legal consequences of a failed second marriage. “BEFORE YOU SAY I DO, AGAIN!” is a “tell it is like it is guide”   to avoid an impending disaster.

My Thoughts:

Boy do I wish this book would have been around when I was younger.  I was only 19 when I got married and it was for all the wrong reasons.  I was very shy at the time and lacked self confidence.  That was a recipe for disaster for me.  The guy I married ended up being very abusive.

My parents and siblings knew something was wrong and when one of my older brother’s came to town for a visit, he got it out of me.  With my family’s support, I got out of it. I had to quit my job because he kept showing up there but that ended up being a good thing.  I decided to go back to university and little by little my confidence grew.  I was finally living totally in my own apartment, something I never thought I could.  Eventually I even moved to a Canada from the U,S. for a great job.

The thing is, I believe that if I hadn’t gone through that horrible experience, I wouldn’t be who I am today.  I’ve been here in Canada for over 20 years now.  16 years ago I married a Canadian.  I was never going to marry again.  I found my independence and no one was going to take that away from me.  However, I did agree to lived with Bill and a year later agreed to marry him.  We did some relationship workshops together, which really help.  Today, he is still the love of my life.

What I didn’t know then is that I was following some of the advice of Before You Say I do Again by Benjamin Berkley.  Believe me, it is sound, no nonsense advice that anyone can follow.  Though the book is directed at women, men can certainly benefit from it too. I also recommend it for people thinking about getting married for the first time.  In fact, I think it should be required reading!

I highly recommend Before You Say I Do Again by Benjami Berkley!  In fact,  today is the last day of my giveaway to win a copy for yourself.  Go enter the giveaway, here.

About Benjamin Berkley:

Benjamin Berkley is the author of four self-help books:  ”My Wishes, Your Plan for Organizing Your Family’s Needs” (Sourcebooks, June, 2006)   “The Complete Executor’s Guide” (Sourcebooks, June 2007)   “Winning Your Social Security Disability Case” (Sourcebooks, February, 2008) and “Before You Say I Do Again, A Buyer’s Beware Guide to Remarriage.” (Frederick Fell Publishers, September, 2009). “Against My Will” (Fell Publishers, September, 2012) is Benjamin Berkley’s fifth book and debut novel.

And though writing is his passion, for over 34 years he has conducted a busy law practice in which he has seen many interesting clients come through his door.  One in particular, an older woman with white hair, the kindest smile, and an amazing story became the inspiration for one of his characters for “Against My Will.”   Berkley lives in southern California with his wife Phyllis and their cat Riley.   He has two grown children and is always bragging about his most beautiful grandson and granddaughter.

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